Yesterday I swum in a 1.8m pool. It's about 8m in width. Normally I don't dare to swim in a pool which I cannot touch the ground. It takes a quite a bit of courage for me to do it.
I'm still not very good at swimming. The maximum distance I could go non-stop is half a olympic sized pool in width. Not length though.
Well... I have until end of 2009 to swim non-stop to the other end of the pool (in width) and I'll be rewarded with Tiffany.
For the sake of Tiffany... I shall work hard!
May 26, 2009
May 6, 2009
Parenting notes
I've been doing some reading on how to tame my little monster. I think I need a book called "Handling little monsters for dummies".
These are what I learnt and excerpted from "Raising a happy child" by Steve and Shaaron Biddulph.
How to teach babies to stay away from danger
If a child is heading for a dangerous object, pull them/ his hands away and stay in a firm voice,
"Come away!"
"Hot! Hands off!"
Tell the child what to do as opposed to what not to do. This is more useful than saying
"Don't touch it or you will burn yourself" (sounds like Dan)
which can plant the image in a child's mind of the bad outcome and may make them fascinated with doing it.
Stages of Discipline
Distracting babies
Distract the babies away from what you don't want them to do by offering something else, like picking them up, give them a cuddle, give them a toy or even point them to look at an interesting object like a dog.
Redirecting toddlers
Offer them something in replace of what the toddlers desire. Eventually they will learn that they will not always get exactly what they want, their needs will be considered and something good might happen.
When the children have only the beginnings of language, it doesn't work to lecture or scold. Explaining things in details will not make them change. 2-3 years old learns with their bodies, show them what you want them to do.
When they become better with language, redirect them by putting your words into the positive. Tell them what to do as opposed to what not to do. Humans respond better to being told what you want.
Do not shout at them. Offer an alternative which is acceptable to you.
The teaching conversation
Help little monsters to find new ways to behave that still meet their needs. We want them to
learn to wait
take no for answer
ask politely for what they want
respect others' feelings
not hurt others physically or verbally
follow simple rules
When the problem happens, stop the child, calm the child and make good eye contact.
Ask
1. What happened? What did you do?
2. What were you thinking and feeling?
3. What do you think you could have done differently?
4. What will you do to fix this now?
5. Will you do that now?
Aims: Resolve the issue and make sure that the child has learnt the lesson and come out not feeling bad.
These are what I learnt and excerpted from "Raising a happy child" by Steve and Shaaron Biddulph.
How to teach babies to stay away from danger
If a child is heading for a dangerous object, pull them/ his hands away and stay in a firm voice,
"Come away!"
"Hot! Hands off!"
Tell the child what to do as opposed to what not to do. This is more useful than saying
"Don't touch it or you will burn yourself" (sounds like Dan)
which can plant the image in a child's mind of the bad outcome and may make them fascinated with doing it.
Stages of Discipline
Distracting babies
Distract the babies away from what you don't want them to do by offering something else, like picking them up, give them a cuddle, give them a toy or even point them to look at an interesting object like a dog.
Redirecting toddlers
Offer them something in replace of what the toddlers desire. Eventually they will learn that they will not always get exactly what they want, their needs will be considered and something good might happen.
When the children have only the beginnings of language, it doesn't work to lecture or scold. Explaining things in details will not make them change. 2-3 years old learns with their bodies, show them what you want them to do.
When they become better with language, redirect them by putting your words into the positive. Tell them what to do as opposed to what not to do. Humans respond better to being told what you want.
Do not shout at them. Offer an alternative which is acceptable to you.
The teaching conversation
Help little monsters to find new ways to behave that still meet their needs. We want them to
learn to wait
take no for answer
ask politely for what they want
respect others' feelings
not hurt others physically or verbally
follow simple rules
When the problem happens, stop the child, calm the child and make good eye contact.
Ask
1. What happened? What did you do?
2. What were you thinking and feeling?
3. What do you think you could have done differently?
4. What will you do to fix this now?
5. Will you do that now?
Aims: Resolve the issue and make sure that the child has learnt the lesson and come out not feeling bad.
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